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Tuesday, September 17, 2013

DIVERSITY

So as if life in Québec is ever simple, in the last few months it has been getting more and more difficult for minorities, ethnics, Anglos or anyone else who doesn’t fit into the mold of what is deemed to be a true “Québécois”. Born and raised here I have always been proud of Québec’s uniqueness and openness towards people from all over the world. But as of late, I have been feeling quite unwanted... :( This breaks my heart because this is the only home I have ever known. I love the diversity of this gorgeous province and all that it has to offer but I find myself wondering if I maybe should have left Québec for Ontario a long while ago...... Bills, language laws, and now a values charter have brought the worst out in everyone.

A recent viral video of a man harassing a woman wearing a hijab on a bus has left me angry and disgusted. I never expected people could be so horrible (and I’m sure there is more to come). Telling people they haven’t integrated into Québec society and that they should go back home. How is it that communities like the Greek, Italian, Armenian, Jewish etc. have been able to leave their home countries and come here and not only integrate into Canadian and Québec society, but continue to grow their own traditions and cultures here, without compromising those of Quebecers? Maybe it’s time for Quebecers to lay the blame where it belongs....to themselves! If the French language and Québec religion and culture is not thriving here or at risk of being lost, it is not because of the immigrants here. Maybe Quebecers haven’t put much effort into growing that aspect of their lives?? Maybe it’s easier to complain that some Arab took your job then to actually admit that he was happy for the opportunity to go to school and worked harder to rise above everyone around him....maybe harder than some Québec kid who grew up hating going to school?

I think that we are not seeing the real picture; we are amongst the luckiest people in the world. Born in a country where we are free to do as we want, become want we want. We have opportunities and choice. We can work, go to school, or even sit on our ass and collect welfare! Most immigrants coming here have not been so lucky. Imagine being a mother with 4 kids, no job, no food, living in poverty, without any opportunities, day in and day out. Imagine being a preteen, 12 years old, but instead of dreaming of one direction, you’re trying to run away from the bombs falling out of the sky. Imagine being an 8 year old girl and not being allowed to go to school because education isn’t necessary to be a wife and mother. Imagine being a 25 year old man, fresh out of university looking for a job, any job, to help put food on the table to feed your parents and 5 other siblings.

Immigrants who are lucky enough to get accepted by Canada and Quebec want nothing more than to live peacefully and to be allowed all the freedoms and opportunities that we Canadians were lucky enough to be born into.  Immigration is what Canada and Québec are all about. That’s what our country is built on. Where did it all go wrong? When I was a young kid growing up, I never ever questioned a turban on the head or wondered why a woman wore a hijab. We are a multi ethnic and multi cultural society and have been very successful at it.  Why now is all this hatred coming out? Most of us are educated enough to know and accept the cultures, religions and traditions of others. We know that fundamentally we are all the same. We are all human, we all deserve the same rights and freedoms and most importantly respect and understanding.

This Values Charter, so far, has divided us instead of unite us, as our politicians would like to mention every chance they get on the media. Why and how is our Québec culture threatened by a bank worker or a nurse or a daycare employee wearing a turban or hijab? Why must we hide our crosses and mask our beliefs? Why must we be so focused on what makes us different instead of focusing on how our values are pretty much the same? I can understand neutrality in the police force, in the justice system, but a 3 year old just wants to get a hug from her caregiver, with or without a hijab on. A patient in the hospital, suffering and in pain, really doesn’t care which god his doctor prays to, his only concern is to get better.

Somehow in 2013, it’s obvious to me that we need more religion and spirituality in our lives. Taking it out of our schools, our government buildings, and now our hospitals, daycares, etc, is not the answer. Part of the problem with our Québec culture is that the people denounced their affiliation with the Catholic Church many years ago. I think we should be encouraging religion and opening up our minds and hearts and learn about others instead of pushing the unknown away. Maybe we will all end up learning something. We would definitely get a better understanding of respect and tolerance of our neighbors.